Alfre

Hello everyone. My name is Alfre and I am the Bottom in this relationship. I should say, I am the very happy and lucky Bottom in the relationship!

I do think of us as Top and Bottom but as time goes on and I find myself more and more in this thing we do I am coming to realise that I am also somewhat of a submissive. The use of different terminology and what it means to us is something I would like to explore on here. The dynamics of a DD relationship fascinate me. I have yet to meet any two couples who have the same approach and set up. It seems that in this community we are blessed with infinite diversity.

Andra and I have been together for two years or so. We do live together but because of work commitments we are forced to spend weeks apart. These enforced separations complicate DD but I am aware that many of you will empathise as you are in similar situations. Andra is a believer in punishing misdeeds as soon as possible but sometimes that means me waiting for her to come home from a week or two away, the wait brings with it its own perfect anticipation.

I have rules. All of them have developed in response to either physical and mental health needs or to benefit me in some other way. I also have Andra's 'expectations' of me. These are things that are not made explicit in rules but a general way to behave or not to behave! Infractions are ALWAYS punished. There are sometimes mitigating circumstances but NEVER excuses. Attempts to wriggle out of punishment are not tolerated and failure to tell Andra when I have broken a rule...well, let's just say I don't fail to tell her...I am not insane :)

I hope that you enjoy meeting us and sharing your thoughts on our posts. Andra is due home this weekend and I am in a lot of trouble for various broken rules, so watch this space I am sure we will have details for you!

Andra

A bit more about us ...... You can call me Andra and my darling girl is Alfre. For all intents and purposes when people look at us they see a pretty run of the mill lesbian couple; in love, at ease, happy, in tune with one another – which we are. But what they don’t see is one of the biggest reasons that contribute to that – domestic discipline. This dynamic is integral to who we both are as well as to our relationship.

I am Alfre’s Top .... this is a term which encompasses so much of what we do. As Alfre’s Top I; decide upon rules for her and administer punishment when these rules are broken, make decisions and take control when necessary, provide advice and guidance, issue instructions, spank her for reasons other than punishment ....... 

I have always had this in me and it is since being with Alfre that my true Toppy nature has blossomed into the natural and unforced essence that it is ... both a spirituality and sexuality.  It is very hard to put into words the feelings I experience when spanking Alfre and it will depend on why I am spanking her ..... but this is where our blog comes into play! Via posting I hope to not only share our DD life but also the complex feelings involved .... the power exchanges for example; the incredible high Alfre’s submission gives me because I can feel it empowering us BOTH.

 So, if you think this sounds interesting, stick around as I am now going to get Alfre to introduce herself, but then I will endeavour to post about something that is happening for us now.

Hello

Hello and welcome to our new blog!

We are a loving lesbian couple who have a relationship which is rooted in domestic discipline. We are writing this blog is to share some of our experience and hopefully make some new like-minded friends. Some of the posts we will write together and sometimes we will write individually to give both the Top and Bottom perspectives on how discipline works in our relationship.

I know there are already so many sites out there which focus on DD, we hope that our experience will add something of value to those who have an interest in the subject. We intend to add some links here to the great sites which we visit regularly.

The look and feel of the blog will change over time as we get to grips with blogger and agree on design!

Look forward to meeting you and sharing our journey.